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We did just the civil ceremony with one relative as witness and had dinners or coffee with individual friends and family members in the following weeks to celebrate. Each person important to us got our undivided attention at very affordable expenses.
Hey, it’s all about the couple anyways! Why not do what you want? 🙂
Or just… don’t spend so much on them. You can have casual weddings people.
Used to be they’d have them in the parent’s living room.
Yeah this is what my husband and I did! Signed the paper, had my parents sign as witnesses, then we went to a nice dinner with the family on the weekend.
Cost me less than $100 for the marriage license and the actual marriage certificate, my parents bought us our rings (from Costco lol) and they treated us to dinner too.
Because I don’t give a damn:
Everyone was giving us grief for being “to young”. Therefore, my wife and I got eloped with our witness my paternal grandma. Three years later, we sent out wedding invites for everyone to come to our “wedding.” It was a grand old time, everyone had fun, the food was good, and the beach party theme was well received. Only four people who knew it was really our anniversary were the “minister”, my wife, myself, and my paternal grandma.
I been saying this when I get married only maybe 2-10 people IF that! Fuck that.
my whole thing rlly is. why are we spending upper twenty thousands on ceremonies and going in DEBT for it…can you not recreate the same experience at a park or your own house or just do what OP said
Hell yeah, throwback to 2020 peak life
If I ever get married, this will be me. Just lemme sign then check out for the rest of the day with the hubbie (most likely)
This is called “eloping” and it’s already normalized
Or go to a Justice of the Peace and spend the $15k on a house.
Let’s normalize not saying normalizing when what we mean is “I don’t like something and nobody else should like it either”.
Nah. I’m stoked for mine. Normalize doing what you can afford and doing what makes you happy
My sister and her fiancé just got married. She invited 12 people to her house and served Haitian food. The “wedding cake” was cupcakes my kids made. It was chill. No one went into debt.
That’s our plan. Just sign some papers and take a kick ass honeymoon. Then have a party when we get back.
That’s what we did. Best decision we made.
pretty sure this has already become normal
Why would you need to normalize it. Do what you want. I don’t need approval from other people to celebrate my relationship in the way I want
That’s what we did, got married destination. it was Awesome,
Do they not know that you get free shit from a wedding? Just don’t buy into the over hype the wedding industry spreads, having a simple wedding with close family and friends is totally fine
Eloped in my cousins uptown manhattan apt with her doorman and two people we met 10 min before the ceremony as witnesses then bought a house 7 months later — best decision ever, to this day, I don’t regret not having a wedding or the stress that comes with it to ensure everyone else enjoys
I’ve ministered multiple weddings and I don’t think most people know you can just sign the paper and be done with it. You do need the marriage license, but you’re good once you sign the officiates form and send it off. You don’t need a ceremony or any of the other fancy shit. Just show up with your person, 2 witnesses and the person officiating the wedding. You can knock that thing out in 30 seconds, then go have a party. Best part you didn’t spend $50k on a wedding.
The best/most fun weddings I’ve ever been to, are the low budget intimate ones. The giant fancy ones with a million activities are so boring, and nobody remembers them. They remember the fun ones. In case you’re feeling bad about doing something small, don’t worry, you’re doing it right! Do what makes you happy!
This is the smartest thing my brother ever did. Bride and Groom only. End of discussion..
They had so much fun.
I remember as a young girl wanting to get married barefoot by the river. My Southern mother was mortified.
Ceremonies in general are not healthy for introverts, nor those with anxiety issues. If I had a romantic drive I would prefer a simple wedding presided over by a clerk. It is simple and to the point.
One thing that caught my attention when exploring other cultures was Islamic weddings. From what I was reading marriages are handled like a business agreement and are very short. A wedding is just a union, while all money would be invested in the future of the couple.
That’s pretty much what my parents did (they’re both 48yo and married for 27 years).
Goals
But if you don’t have the public ceremony you won’t feel bad if you leave!!!! Shite I tell ya.
More money for the honeymoon! A win in my book
We went to Vegas with close Family and friends and had Elvis Presley marry us at the Little Neon Chapel. 10/10 would recommend!
Thats what we did.
You do what you want.
This is what I want to do if I ever get married
That’s what we did! We eloped at a resort. Best decision ever
Amen
Literally all my brother and his wife did. They even skipped the honeymoon, just got it made official and kept in as normal.
Elope! I did the cheesy Vegas thing with no family, no drama, just us. Save your money for the future. This society norms are straight trash!