My first GF got the ick when I cried after learning my best friend had terminal cancer
Wednesday, 12 Mar 2025
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When you see a blue check mark on Twitter, you know you’re in for a horrible take.
The fact that he was crying shows he has healthy emotional expression. Crying is a normal grief response.the fact that she got “the ick” over him expressing his emotions in a safe way rather that getting drunk or doing something self destructive makes me wonder how healthy of a person she is to be around.
Like,she couldn’t even let him grieve without being a jackarse.I could never imagine being so selfish
If your partner disregards any of your feelings, regardless of their gender, they’re a shitty partner.
I’ve had women dismiss me telling others about me being a victim of domestic violence from another woman.
Women who were advocates of domestic violence support and believing the victims. They were social workers too and teachers.
It’s been over a year and I’m still traumatized by that experience.
Edit. It was a male soldier who was a psychologist with the Canadian armed forces that pulled me out of a suicidal spiral by telling me he believed me and helped me get my life together.
Bro answered the question perfectly and immediately got proven right.
USDA Grade A+ Homosexual here: I’ve had several straight buddies tell me over the years they appreciate me because they could discuss things like grief with me which they couldn’t discuss with their gfs or straight guy friends at the time. Other gay friends of mine have echoed similar things. I think growing up gay and having to walk the walk we all had to walk gives us gays better ability to empathize and be sensitive to these things uncritically because we spent our youths having to do that for each other with countless topics, especially those of us who grew up when the HIV/AIDS epidemic was at its peak. While I can’t recommend enough you straight boys having a trusted gay in your life, it would at the very least likely help your wardrobe and home decor to no end, I’d first recommend you and your boys learning to communicate and be there emotionally for each other. Even if you have a healthy, supportive relationship with your gfs/wives, it could only help, and would be invaluable if you instead have a gf/wife like the one referenced above. And while it is gay to engage in romantic activities with your boy, it’s not gay to love, care for, and support him.
as a guy, one thing I am proud of my ex is even though we fought and broke up on not so “happy terms”, she never brought any of my vulnerabilities that I opened to her about in those arguments and never tried to weaponize it.
I have cried in front of her and many times was completely vulnerable and I swear even while breaking up, not a single time did she bring those stuff to weaponize against me or to mock me.
That woman still gives me hope that there are in fact good women.
Fking hate it that it didn’t work out between us.
As I was literally reading a thread on another subreddit moments ago about how so many men who express emotions to their partner have it weaponized against them later so they just stop showing emotion.
Sad comeback tbh. Clever, but sad.
They sound like someone who would reply “oh well they probably deserved it” to someone being domestically abused or worse
Men. Find women you can be vulnerable with. It’s the best thing ever. There are many woman out there who want to see the vulnerable,e softer side of their man.
I’ve said it before. Women don’t want men to be in touch with their emotions. They want men to be in touch with HER emotions.
I see a few comments that women world NEVER do this. Really? You don’t think they’re are insensitive and cruel women in the world? Have you not been on Twitter? Have you not heard of Moms For Liberty or MTG?
Belief in toxic masculinity can infect men and women. If he has to go through things alone, sounds like his family and friends are assholes, too.
So sick of seeing that whole “GaVe Me ThE iCk” expression everywhere online. It’s so fucking cringy. 🙄
you know that Katie there took one look at what that second guy wrote and wondered what they were talking about
Tbh I have come across this before. I was getting closer to a female friend of mine and i can’t remember how it came up but she said crying wasn’t manly. It never went any further. I don’t run around crying or anything, but I used to bottle everything and it nearly ended me, so if it needs to come out, it comes out now. I don’t think it’s in any way common, but I do believe there are women that think this way.
This happened to me and the effects it has on you are profound.
Young women unfortunately love the tough guy vibe (even when it’s leads to forms of abuse or just plain shitty treatment) and also shame guys who are “too nice” or “mommas boys” or crying when their friend might die for not meeting it. Then they wonder why the men they date don’t treat them better or end up in jail for fighting or other impulse control problems.Â
I went on a date with a woman when we were in our 30s. Didn’t work out for various reasons. At one point though she said “you’re so nice, I wish someone would have told me to date guys like you when I was younger instead of the idiots I dated”. But that’s the thing. Plenty of people probably including some actual nice guys probably did tell her that or asked her out or whatever and she chose the dirt bags instead. Not just because that’s what she chose but because society and other woman probably told her a guy with tattoos and no job and a substance habit and a short temper is so hot and sexy you should date him instead of a guy who has a job or likes to cook or go on dates or gets along with his parents or something “not manly” like that.Â
It’s also quite likely this whole thing was made up on a blank template to farm rage and engagement. It’s all very conveniently timed.
I confided in my husband that I was feeling burned out at work, and the next time he got drunk, he made fun of me for being weak.
Patriarchy and society aren’t gonna get better if women can’t admit that they also massively contribute to it and that it also hurts men.
It’s why feminism has made no fucking progress in a decade. They don’t want to fight the REST of the patriarchy. Pretending every man is an emotionless oppressor that has no real issues is just more comfortable
Gas prepare to be lighted!!
Funny until it isn’tÂ
A lot of so-called “feminist” women want to be treated fairly while also not treating other people fairly.
I had found out that my best friend from high school had killed himself after suffering from poorly treated PTSD from serving in Afghanistan. An ex came home to find me curled up in a ball crying on the couch and when I told her what was wrong, her response was “But you haven’t talked to him or seen him in a few years. Get up and get changed, I want to go out to dinner.”
Years later, I opened up about it to a now ex-fiance and a few days later she decided it would be a good idea to watch “Brothers” together, her logic being that it would help me accept it easier after seeing extreme PTSD portrayed in a movie.
Needless to say, I don’t date much anymore.
I despise this phrase, “the ick.”
I have exclusively seen it used by shitty people, against perfectly normal behavior that they want to demonize. Plus, it sounds stupid and vague, communicate directly for God’s sake, or get the fuck outta my face and life.
The lady is kinda right tho, he was dumped bc his gf is ugly on the inside and outside and can’t handle an actual decent person, not due to the ick
The secret is to remember that everyone on twtitter is a cancer to human society.
If you aren’t… you wouldn’t be on it anymore.
Hope you dumped her and spent the remaining time with your friend!
He answered the question, and she proved his point immediately
Adults using the word “ick” is embarrassing. That is all.
I think her point was more about how the ick usually isn’t just one thing, it’s like the final straw. I’m also definitely not defending the original woman in question
That is why I don’t talk to women.