AIO for telling my bf to choose a relationship with me or friendship with his ex?
Thursday, 13 Mar 2025
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Probably for the best, that’s way too much drama for a 4 months relationship.
He Never gonna block her 😂
4 months in is talking about marriage and is tracking your period…creeper alert
NOR. If it’s been like this and you’re only months into the relationship… it’s definitely not going to get better with time. You did the right thing choosing yourself and protecting yourself.
Better safe than sorry, right?
3-4 months is a pattern lol…cmon now.
I am married and my husband doesn’t track my period. I would run as fast as possible if a guy did stuff like that after 4 months.
He sounds like s creep and liar.
He loves you with all his heart and tracks your period after 4 months?
Girl get the hell out of there
Seems like everyone wins from this conclusion. Sorry it happened.
“yes i will block her but at the same time i will leave you too”
Is the biggest load of horse shit I’ve ever heard in my life, because why would he block her/get rid of her and still get rid of you? What’s the point in him lying about that.
I think this is the best outcome. Rather get out of it early, then deal with the games he is playing.
I give it 4 months until they’re married and pregnant😂
NOR
I was all ready to say you’re wrong based on the title, but yeah, this is not a friendship, it’s an emotional relationship that he’s having because he can’t decide who he wants, but you’re there in person, so he tells you it’s you and not her, but if she were there, who knows.
Even if he did say, “okay, I’ll block her and end our friendship”, how could you trust him? He’s already been secretive about it.
Don’t let him pull you back in again. Make sure your friend blocks him too.
He’s pulling the “you’re fired,” “No I quit!” move. I know you don’t feel it’s funny right now, but it’s pretty hilarious.
He loves you with all his heart, except the large peice that’s excited to get attention from his long distance ex. I mean… you can’t make this stuff up.
Lmao so he says he’s doing what’s best for him and so is going to both block her and also leave you. Gimme a break he just wants to keep a crack in your relationship by saying he’ll still block her. No he won’t and don’t ever unblock him.
He can’t stay faithful and prioritize his partner, get rid of the trash
A 4 month relationship isn’t really a relationship yet and he was talking about marriage and kids. Yikes. Sounds like he’s desperate to settle down and was maybe using you as a back up since he couldn’t get a visa for his first choice. He was never just friends with that woman, that’s obvious.
You did the right thing breaking it off with him. This is way too much drama for such a short relationship, plus the moment he gets the other woman into the country, he would have ran off with her.
Move on and cut ties with this time waster.
This sounds like it’s been drama from the beginning. 30 is far, far too old to be acting out this silliness. You’re well out of it!
Kudos to you on how well you handled this!
never ask them to choose. if they have to choose it’s not you.
Multiple thoughts about this one. I’m cordial, if not friends, with almost all of my exes. Before any of us dated, we were friends, and while it took time to be “normal” again we were willing to work through the awkward stages for the sake of friendship. I could not be with someone who put me in a position to choose either. Yet, if any of them were to text me something like that while knowing I was in a relationship… it would be an immediate “This is your only warning, do not disrespect me or my relationship again by asking things like that.” without even answering the question. Any kind of step in that direction would be an immediate block. My last ex both tried to control and monitor while also being sneaky and suspicious, so I’m done with both extremes on this topic. That’s all of the thoughts going into this.
The amount of disrespect that was shown in him sneaking around just to text his ex and archiving the messages… do you really want to be with someone like that? I don’t think you needed to come to Reddit with this one.
Can’t help but feel in situations like this people are addicted to the flattery and attention. Even if he ends up with his ex, there will always be someone else he “can’t let go of.”
Go no contact— block him on everything, and soon enough you’ll feel relieved and refreshed from the tangled mess that is this man.
“I’m gonna block her anyway” I’d reply “Block me too please” because that’s genuinely weird. I refuse to choose, I’m blocking her anyway but I must leave you for voicing it…okay, try not rebounding.
The thing about cheaters is that there is no exclusive context. Once they normalize it, they’ll find a new excuse over and over. What I mean is, don’t worry, he’ll do the same to her lol
NOR. Underreacting. But what’s wrong with you? (1) any sensible person can stop typing at end of paragraph 4. “I instantly broke up with him. THE END. AIO?”. Instead you have 3 more paragraphs (2) he can’t stick to his word on anything and he lies repeatedly. Your ultimatum is pointless and only signals to him that you’re desperate (3) he is extremely manipulative, reframing the ultimatum as a challenge to his “ethical code”, which makes you the bad guy for “making demands” when all you are demanding is monogamy. He is trying to guilt you into coming back AND allowing him to keep cheating.
How easy is it for him to SAY he’ll be a martyr on principle, and SAY he’ll block you both? When has he even once kept his word? He plans to just continue with her or restart with her as soon as you’re gone, or better yet, after you come back.
He’s helping her with her damn visa! Just block him and be done with it.
I feel like you’re underreacting to this guy tracking your period after two months. That REALLY should have been your break up point. Not him basically breaking up with you to be with his ex.
You gave this dude way to many chances, like to a concerning degree.
he’s betting on 2 horses, and when the other loses again he’ll piggy back to you
He is dishonest and disrespectful. If he isn’t giving you a reason to trust him, you shouldn’t make one up on his behalf
NOR thing is, the majority of relationships could have worked out if the scenarios that led to the break up were different. I guess this is the best scenario for everyone involved. Could he have gone a different way about it? Absolutely. Now he’s left in 2024, I wish you the best for 2025