Is this normal

Yes, my lady friends in college sent me texts like that all the time. Or had me on speed dial for “there’s a weird guy following me and I need to loudly talk about the fact that you’re expecting me shortly.”

It’s unfortunately very normal, and necessary. If a lady friend ever calls you and jarringly starts talking about how she’s so excited to see you and she’ll be there in just a few minutes…a) you’re holding yourself right in your day to day and b) tell her how excited you are to see her in just a few minutes. Keep the conversation going.

You post this as a joke, but many people do this. Unfortunately it is all too common for someone to be a creep online and do something bad to their date. Sure online dating can also be completely normal, but this is a safety measure to tell someone close to you where you are going and with whom in case anything bad might happen.

And? There are reasons we do this 🤦‍♀️

Yes, don’t meet strangers without letting someone you trust know where you’re going and the latest they should expect to hear from you again.

This is funny cause I literally texted my friend a few days ago “if I don’t message you by 9am I’m Probabaly dead”

Safety is important

Men bemoan how they’re treated unfairly. And women get murdered for rejecting them.

It’s hard to feel sympathy for the men that don’t work on themselves or acknowledge issues that they do cause (both towards women and their own gender.) So, women know to rely on each other. We came up with systems like these to protect ourselves or other women in the event something happens to us.

If you have worked on yourselves and such, this obviously isn’t about you.

It’s absolutely real, not with those words but we do that whenever we are meeting someone we don’t know, it’s better to be safe, I always send my location in real time too. Or whenever I take an uber late at night I also send my brother a screenshot of the driver and the license along with sharing the trip. But to be fair I live in a very sketchy area and many bad things have happened

Absolutely yes. And it’s unfortunately very necessary. Girls have it so much harder than guys in so many areas. There’s advantages of course, but constantly fearing for your safety is a pretty massive downside

Yeah we also share locations if we’re meeting a new person. And ask them to do a “check up” call in an hour or so.

It should be.

yes, it’s normal

I’m a gay dude and I do this with my hookups

Sadly, normal.

I mean yes but this whole concept isn’t as deep of a “social commentary” as it seems. It’s just common sense. I mean, miss me with the “The way this woman just texted her friend made me realize in what kind of society we’re living”

As a guy iv done that. Can’t trust anyone these days.

I share my location, what I’m wearing and a picture of myself. If this is a person I met on an app I will send his profile picture and a link if possible. I’ve also started asking for pictures of people’s IDs before meeting up.

It’s absolutely insane that we have to do this to feel safe but meeting strangers off the Internet leads to not great things sometimes. So better safe than sorry.

I’m a guy and I’ve done this too. There’s a lot of crazies out there.

I’m a straight guy in a group of five friends who also all do this too.

It’s not just women.

And one night it was even needed.

Always watch out for each other.

Yes. When I was dating, I absolutely sent these to my friends.

Before she got a car, my best friend used to send me the full information of every Uber driver with an actual picture of the car when it arrived so that if something happened, someone would know. It’s not just done for dating.

Maybe you shouldn’t be meeting strangers online you barely know

Louis C.K. (I acknowledge his flaws) had a great bit comparing a woman getting into a car with a strange man to a man getting into a car with a bear.

“I sure hope this bear doesn’t do what bears do!”