it do be like that sometimes

I remember back when I was naive enough to believe that I could befriend people who sought friendships on here. I soon realised why they sought friendships on here.

I try my best to be nice to people but like holy fuck. I wish I didn’t give so many people 3rd and 4rth chances. They had no friends for a fucking reason holy shit.

Made me learn two very sad things: 1. Many people without friends interpret you being just a decent, polite human being as you liking them. I didn’t enjoy their company very much but they wouldn’t leave me alone and I didn’t want to be rude. Took me too long to tell them I don’t want to spend time with them in a polite way.

2. Many times there are reasons why people don’t have friends. In my cases lots of them had very scary anger issues, substance abuse issues, trauma, were badly socialised.. and put that all on their friends and let it out on them. Of course the friends peaced out after a while and I get it after finding out the ugly truth myself. It’s completely fine to struggle and have a bad time, it’s not okay to hurt the people who are trying to help you and care for you.

i dont think im a terrible person but I just can’t put down the shield around me. im too scared to commit to being myself and risk being hurt later. i know the reason i dont have many friends and I’m not complaining, I choose to be this way.

I always wondered why this smart funny woman I worked with didn’t seam to have close friends so I befriended her. Turns out the closer you are to her the worse she allows herself to treat you. Polite and nice to random people but snappy and rude af to her family and close ones. We are no longer friends.

Damn, this hurts. There was a time in my life when I switched schools and I made one friend but she moved away because it was too expensive where we live (a very common experience). After she moved, I struggled so hard to get people to like me. After that experience, I became a shut in and put up walls but my social life did improve as the years went on. Sometimes people don’t like you for dumb reasons.

Me making friends with a girl who claims to have no female friends. I understand sometimes people just get unlucky with certain bad experiences.

She was fucking a married man and trying to justify it but saying she looks better than the wife.

Had a coworker at a job i was working earlier this year, befriended him because nobody paid him any mind. Turned out to be a super clingy friend,constantly calling, constantly complaining about his life. I was dating a lot at the time and this dude would come up to me in front of coworkers and ask stuff like “did her pussy smell good? What did her pussy taste like? Did you fucker her in the ass?” To the point where I got uncomfortable and chewed him out in front of everyone.

I ended up romantically involved with another coworkwheand when he found out he would constantly text me “where is she at? What’s she doing? Are you guys in love? Will you marry her? Etc.”

Soon as I quit that job I started to ghost him entirely. Dude complained about not being able to have a girlfriend and he wonders why.

I was bullied as a kid. Mainly because I was gay, and I thought for so long that people didn’t like me because I was awful.

It was amazing when I finally changed school and was able to make friends easily.

Well there are some jewels hidden in the trash sometimes… They are rare though…

Maybe someone is just passing through a bad phase in their lives and just need someone to flourish.

I usually call the act of searching if someone reserved is secretly a great person “sifting gold”. And occasionally you will find the best people you will ever know.

Sorry my parents didn’t socialize me correctly and now I’m awkward and don’t know what to say lol I’m making friends slowly though

There’s a reason why they aren’t in the *other* group chat

Used to always tell people in the military when they’re transferring to a new base, watch out for the people who go super hard to try and immediately befriend you when you get there, very rarely they’re just a super nice person, but 99% of the time they’re glomming onto you because everyone there can’t stand them and they’re taking advantage of you not knowing that yet.

From my observations it seems that extended loneliness makes people turn, odd.

Or maybe those lonely people are lonely because they are, odd.

They have an aura of desperation about them

I would get him/her a second chair because I can’t give a crap

Im the one with no friends, lol.

I remember a tweet that says, “im the kid you hang out with first year of school then you dump for decent human beings” or something like that.

Yeah im that kid.

I regret nothing though.

I befriended people with no friends multiple times. Sometimes it worked out great and sometimes it didn’t. Best if you can introduce them to a friend group so that they don’t only have you.

I’m that guy with no friends but it’s because I’m the one packing up and leaving.

I used to have no friends. Not because there was a good reason for people to avoid me, but because I was severely anti-social and simply didn’t try to make friends. If anyone actually wanted to get to know me, they’d find out that I’m not unpleasant to be around.

Last year, during my first semester of college, someone from one of my programming classes started to talk to me more often, and we ended up really getting along and becoming good friends. They had no idea who I was, and yet they gave me a chance and we both ended up benefitting from it.

That’s an example of a nice person. Someone who sees a person with no friends and doesn’t assume that they deserve it. Some people just don’t know how to navigate the social world and need a little help to come out of their shell.

I became friends with someone who, by their own claim, had only one friend who lived six hours away. I got pretty close with her and her friend and ended up falling completely head over heels for her friend. Luckily for me, she fell in love with me too and we started dating. Then, over the following several months, the original friend A. Found out we were dating, B. Admitted to my now girlfriend that she was in love with her, and C. Spent a couple months calling her almost every day trying to convince her to break up with me and date her instead, despite the fact that she isn’t even a LITTLE interested in doing so. Not exactly a great friend for either of us.

The real hurt is realizing you are that loner and coming to terms with all of your flaws that causes you to be in that situation to begin with.

Feels bad dude.

Oh yes..