Meirl
Wednesday, 12 Mar 2025
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You’ll just have to be satisfied with that one time you were 5 and punched him in the crotch.
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He was just a kid with a kid
Realising that and questioning half the knowledge I took as ultimate truth… My brain shattered and I chose to start over
I’m still a bit scared of my father but I’ve learned he’s just autistic raised in an older time and now has anger issues. he projected a bit onto me with that. respect to my mother for chewing him out every time until he learned better, she’s still the best person ever
This is such a crazy realisation when you grow up. As a kid my dad was all knowing and had travelled the world. Now I know he had just finished his apprenticeship and went to Australia for a few months. It all makes so much more sense, but it’s one of those ways in which the magic of the world slowly disappears as you come of age. But then you realise that you’re now where he used to be and can write your own stories to tell, and it’s all okay again.
Post this to r/CPTSDmemes, it’s gonna blow up
B… but respect your elders! Mother knows best! Aren’t you grateful that your parents raised you /s
I swear culture needs parental worship or else so many adults would be going low to no contact with their parents. It makes sense to worship your parents as a child, your survival depends on them. I just hate how that has become a social expectation as adults in so many cultures.
r/holup
Even now my dad constantly pulls the “I guess you just know everything” card whenever we disagree on something. I mean no, I don’t know everything, but I sure as shit know more about certain topics than you do I guarantee it. Why do I know that? Because I grew up with you as a dad.
I too was afriad of my father as a kid, right up until I was probably mid-teens. Outwardly he is a good father, as was my mother, but the prime motivator as a child was guilt; they’d guilt you into behaving or doing as they said etc. Partly my father would do the whole shouting/aggressive pointing thing – but it was a rarity, so when it happened it was quite a shock.
Now? I’m a lot older. As is he. When he raises his voice I’m acutely aware that the reason he hasn’t had his teeth removed from his head is because I am a better person than he is. I wouldn’t expose my son to that level of anger from me, because I am teaching my son proper respect (Why you respect people, not making him respect through fear or guilt).
But … yeah. If I so chose, I could annihilate my father and have been able to for probably 30yrs. I am not a small individual and whilst everyone thinks I’m some bookish nerd, that’s the side I let my family see. They have zero idea about the bar brawls, other physical altercations I’ve been in etc. Throwing hands is something I’m familiar with but choose not to resort to.
But this is the root of “…respect your elders!” and the assumption of such. It stems, initially, from parents still wanting to continue to exert control over you once you reach adulthood and can individuate.
When i was 25 i realized one day that half of the stories i grew up reading were either made up for funsies or straight up propaganda pieces. For example there was a short story by a Russian author, about how the Norwegian composer Edvard Grieg wrote a song as a gift to a forester’s daughter named Dagny Petersen. Nope. No evidence of this actually happening in history. The story about some little guy in Alsace, France lamenting about his last French lesson because the French lost the war to the Prussians and Alsace had been ceded to Prussia along with Lorraine. Our guy proclaims French is the most beautiful language in the whole world. Turns out the vast majority of Alsace and Lorraine didn’t speak French until after WWII when the French government forced them to. They might not have politically identified with Prussia but neither did the population of most other German states at the time of the Franco-Prussian war. Anyways I won’t bore you with other examples some of which might trigger people.
I think I was 9-10 when we had a family meeting and I yelled at my parents and brother. Told them I was tired of them yelling at each other. Told them they were both doing the best they could. I think it helped. Hearing their kids point of view.
24 is crazy, my mum was 43 when she had me
I was scared of a man who still probably didn’t know how taxes worked
Clearly this guys parents did not care about him.
Oh boy a discussion about parenting on reddit. This should be insightful and light-hearted.
24 is crazy young dude, my dad was 40 when i was 5.
So “Shut the fuck up” was in your vocabulary at 5?
Sounds like a great environment to grow up in….