meirl

To be honest, some can. Like how mom brings you your favorite food or snack when you’re down, or dad says let’s go out and eat or orders food, and friends talk about funny shit. I dunno, I think we also need to try and not get sucked too deep into the pit of despair, and see that they are trying. Like, I know in the pit of despair, it’s hard to do anything else, but they’re there. We need to try and pay attention too.

But some don’t know how to handle it, some try to hang out with you to distract you. But I think, some can kinda see. I dunno.

We wear masks so others cant see our true selves. And then we feel sad that others cant see our true selves.

Of course they notice, they will avoid you more. No one likes negative vibes

I found that while depressed, whenever anyone asked me if I was okay, I would automatically reply that I was tired. I did this for years without realising.

The only reason I discovered that I do this is because my partner told me that I always say I’m tired when I’m depressed. Took 15 years for someone to notice that.

They’ve trained you well. Trained to put on a show.

Its because you’re not supposed to wait for someone to notice you aren’t feeling well, that’s a behavior typically built in childhood by feeling like a burden asking for things yourself.

Stop waiting for people who care about you to ask if you’re doing ok, *tell them* you’re not doing ok

As long as these people you listed aren’t toxic, they should understand and not make you feel bad or like a burden for asking 💙

They notice. They just call it “lazy”, “tardy”, “messy” “unreliable” and all the other things.

Sometimes, and I don’t mean this is always, this is only sometimes, you don’t really show much change in your interactions. If you bottle that shit in hard, people can’t know what they can’t see or aren’t told. It’s best that if you’re feeling depressed to just address it with people, maybe they don’t notice because you’re so good at bottling it up but also maybe they’re simultaneously going through something that has both of you incapable of taking things in the regular way. If you tell them and they ignore it, then that’s just really sad. I think giving the people you care about who you believe care about you the benefit of the doubt would be the best way, and then see from there.

Also, I’m depressed af, but it’s so persistent that anyone I’ve met in the last four or five years has only ever know my depressed self. When I say I’m depressed it doesn’t even faze a lot of them and it’s pretty shit, but also I can’t say they’ve known me any other way and nothing they do can really help.

Everybody has their own problems. Try noticing that rather than focusing on your own shit.

If you feel that way say something, don’t count on telepathy skills of everyone around you.

Sure this may be true but have you considered not noticing people around you can also be depressed and you just never realized? I have a friend I’ve always considered happy and well adjusted with everything going right for her and she knew I was depressed since I shared my diagnosis with her when I got it and a year later during the middle of exams I actually looked at her and realized she looked as though she hadn’t been taking care of herself. I considered turning a blind eye because I was too scared to acknowledge it but decided to bring it up anyways after a few minutes of mentally trying to figure out how to bring it up in a causal or funny way and we spoke about it until her mom came to pick her up. It was a small decision but I’m sure it helped take off just that small amount of burden she was keeping inside.

You’re just as blind as the people around you.

Bc most of the people around you are busy thinking about how nobody is noticing them

We all have our own struggles. Do you know everyone who’s depressed around you?

Here’s a mind blowing fact… You have to tell other people about your feelings. Always and forever. No one will ever read you. It’s not a guessing game.

How can they know? It is all inside, invisible stuff.