My wife and the thermostat
Wednesday, 12 Mar 2025
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The note is covering the numbers so just set it correctly and then put the note back to hide the evidence
She should have her thyroid checked. I’m not kidding.
No sticky notes, but I feel for you!
My husband does the same nonsense. When I came home last night, it was 1° outside—I changed into shorts and a tank top because my husband had the heat blasting as though it heats the house faster.
In the car, he cranks up the fan and the heat, and then opens his window (non-smoker).
It drives me bonkers, but I am sure he has a list of things that I do that he hates
My roommate does this too 😭 I came home from a workout and almost passed out, he had the thermostat set to 78º
When me and our other roommate have brought it up he says that he’s “too skinny” and that it needs to be that hot so he doesn’t freeze. But like put on more clothes??
Many thermostats have a “dad setting” meant as a “calibration”. You can change the display temperature +- 3 degrees from the true temperature. They put it to 76, and in reality it’s set to 73. Dad’s everywhere can thank me.
I think, a lot of times, the source of the problem is that many people don’t understand how HVAC even works. In this case, it seems like op’s wife kinda understands, BUT she’s intolerant of being uncomfortable for even a few minutes. She wants to be warmed up or cooled down as quickly as possible. The problem is these temperature swings are uncomfortable, so it’s just constantly too hot, too cold, too hot, too cold vs just keeping a constant comfortable temperature. For most people it’s somewhere between 65°-75° F. This is insanity AND to be such a control freak about it is…wow.
Is she pre/currently menopausal? Heat flashes be real af.
Asking for a maintenance issue lol
Also, how long did she spend writing that note haha it’s so over the top
She thinks it works the same as her cars AC & heat and the reality is she’s going to cost you all a lot more money if she doesn’t learn how to properly use a residential HVAC system correctly. Leave it on one temperature all day.
thats so silly. tell her it needs to stop. and also she can ruin the system by doing that.
that sticky note is definitely infuriating. something that a 7 year old would do.
My wife was in a coma for 10 days and the doctor said it was nothing else they could do.
I said “Let me just try….(goes to adjust thermostat)
{Wife opens one eye}
install a second thermostat and disconnect the heat/cool terminals on this stat. They can make all the changes they want. I have installed “fake” stats in offices in the past and it fixed the temperature issues the admin staff complained of.
R=24v, W=heat, Y=cool, g=fan, c=common
Leave R and C connected so its powered, disconnect all other terminals. Install a new thermostat (with a remove temperature sensor) someplace near the furnace/AC and run the remote temperature sensor into the living area. Wire the new thermostat with all applicable terminals and set it as you see fit. 😉 Not responsible for the divorce if they find out…
This would drive me insane
Mama Mia let me go
your guys bill must be insane
What’s your bill like, OP?
Dude have you tried talking to her about this and about how it’s bothers you stop being a push over and go talk to your wife
Dude I couldn’t tell you the last time our thermostat was changed. I think it’s been at a constant 70° since the house was built in ‘08, why do yall mess with your thermostats all the time?
This is such immature behavior from your wife. Enjoy.
Rip it off the sticky not on the T-stat and say the Emu did it. When she says “We don’t have an Emu” you say “Then whose was it?”
Now you have a whole other conversation to deal with and keep her off your trail.
This is a honeywell t6 pro, you just have to go in the setting and set a lock screen with a code so she won’t be able to change it!
If my wife sets the thermostat to 76 because she’s cold, she’s paying the entire heating bill. That’s ridiculous
As the one who handles the utility bills in our house, she needs to see the statements from your power or gas company. I bet you she’ll be shocked by how much this is costing you two.
After that, try a month in which the temp is set somewhere in the middle and never changes. Once the month is over, show her the new statement.
That, or, rip off the post-it, set it to your preferred temperature, then put the post-it back up.
Is she this needlessly controlling and frivolous in other aspects of life or just HVAC?
Second paragraph says it all. Your wife hates you OP. “she noticed the house was “comfortable” for a day. Until she realized I touched the thermostat.” This is a control issue, as others have mentioned. Stop being a pushover, grow a backbone and either set her straight or leave her forever. A woman who causes conflict for the sake of conflict will sap up all your energy and happiness until you’re a defeated husk of a man who does everything his wife says without thought or input.
Wire up a hidden thermostat and disconnect the one she has access to. Just keep it powered, she’ll be comfortable due to the placebo effect.
What I find infuriating is “people in my household” who think that the radiator thermostat is some kind of power control.
“No it does not make your room warm quicker!!” How many times?? 
Your wife doesn’t respect your opinion on the temperature of your shared space? That’s messed up. Y’all should be able to compromise. This note is super passive aggressive.
So you don’t get any input on the thermostat setting in the house you share? That sucks
JFC… I deal with a lot of similar things but my wife is mentally ill.
76???? Is she a lizard?
I would have zero patience for that. Zero. My husband did same thing and let’s just say he doesnt anymore. Stays on 65 heating and 72 cooling or heads will roll.
Dude this is what you do. Wire it so it has power but doesn’t connect to switch on A/C or heater. Wire up a secret one in house or by a wifi thermostat that you can place in a inconspicuous place and control from your phone. Let her dilly dick with that one while you wield all the power
Put in a dummy thermostat that she thinks controls the system. Lock out the real one.
Get a Wi-Fi thermostat and you can change it from your phone
how do you marry and live with someone like this?
Install an ecobee and set the schedule for the temp so it automatically reverts