Sad truth

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The secondary schools I’ve been to I can confirm this is accurate as I have basically been bullied out of both

Obviously it’s going to vary from school to school and bully to bully, but after many years I finally figured it out. The behavior they’re trying to correct with punishment is “bothering the staff.”

They’re not punishing the victim to keep the schools reputation, they’re punishing the victim so they stop bothering the teachers. If you punish the bully it will just cause *more* problems, because bullies are the kind to cause problems in retaliation and a lot of their parents are so checked out/delusional that they’ll also cause problems because there’s *no way* that little timmy could have done those horrible things they’re accusing them of.

But the victim? They won’t bother the teachers and it has to get *real* bad before they will involve their parents.

When I was in elementary I got bullied and it didn’t stop until until my dad made it more of a hassle to deal with *him* than to deal with the bully.

And this realization has actually made quite a few things easier in my life. I learned that sometimes you have to turn a “me” problem into a “you” problem to actually get problems resolved. If you’re having a problem with a company and they’re not fixing it like they should? Figure out how to make it more of a hassle to deal with you than to just fix the damned problem and Boom! Problem gets solved.

For example, when my father-in-law died a company kept bothering me about him. I told them he was dead, they asked for the death certificate, and I sent it. But they kept calling, kept asking for the death certificate, because there were lots of departments and it wasn’t getting to where it needed to go. I got fed up and and made it more of a hassle to deal with receiving the death certificate than to actually get it where it needed to go. My work had an e-fax program and you could schedule faxes in advance. So I faxed the death certificate. Every hour of every day for an entire weekend, from 5pm friday to 8am monday. Every single one with a cover sheet saying “I have sent this previously but you requested it again.”

Guess who finally got the damned death certificate. I guess they were worried I’d fax it more frequently and for longer and so actually fixed the problem.

Gotta turn a “me” problem into a “you” problem and magically the problem can be solved. It works.

I still don’t get why my parents had to pay for half of a window because I was the one pushed in it and it broke. How tf was that my fault? “Oh you two were playing, bullshit”. Motherfuckers.

Shame

Bro at my school there was a random fight between two girls and the girl being attacked got a concussion and multiple bruises and the attack only got suspended for like 3 days and the worst thing is that a kid recorded the fight and the principal yelled at the kid and told him to delete the video which got my school in a lot of trouble because obviously the kid didn’t delete the recording and it got used in a court case between the two families because the victims family obesely sued the attack’s family and they got like 180k or something around that amount

Schools don’t have a problem with bullying, they have a problem when you stand up for yourself.

Indeed, every school. Once i was at the principal for telling one teacher about the bullying. Principal told me to shut the fuck up, he will deal with it… spoiler alert he never did

Teachers: “we don’t tolerate bullying”

Teachers: *bullies students*

I used to work for the public schools. This is a fact. This is also why I left. Oh, I got stories… very sad stories.


I got suspended by defending myself.

Also, victims who fight back will be punished…. severely.

Gosh I HATE this!
I was a bully victim in middle school, and I lashed out only ONCE in retaliation, and it wasn’t even beating someone up. All I did was throw his pencil case to the ground so that all his pens were scattered across the floor, and the teacher…..you guessed it! He reprimanded me for “using violence”. And when I said that I was basically bullied the entire three years, he shrugged it off and muttered something about “resolving conflict through discussion”, after I have been called the f-slur for three years, been fouled at sports and otherwise threatened if I don’t let them copy my homework.
Why I never said anything? Because I was basically just a hassle at home, a machine that when functioning well was alright, but woe to me if something went wrong or caused unnecessary stress or effort to resolve things…… so no, I never told my father nor my daycare mother (my mother died when I was 7 and my dad had to work so during the day I stayed with her since me and her daughter were childhood friends) what happened at school.
Teachers need to pay more attention to bullying, but the problem especially with school is that there are “sponsors” and “donors” who influence the principals and staff and threaten to cut funding…… this whole damn system’s broken way beyond repair….

Get ready for the same shit in the workplace!

My stepson was choked from behind, all he did was back up rather fast and smash the attacker into a brick wall. They were both suspended for fighting. They wouldn’t even listen to reason when I asked them if I jump over this counter and start gouging out your eyeballs are we fighting ? They called security

Kids are cruel. That will never change.

My school made me switch districts

To this day I feel a bit of resentment that parents didn’t push the admins at the school more to fix it , it was hell

So sad true

Never thought about it like this. Damn, it is true ;_;

True af

Lost judgement

i will give any school administrator who says this points for honesty