This is a question we should all ask religious bigots.
Thursday, 13 Mar 2025
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A huge part of why I left the Church was hearing a nun chastise a girl, telling her “no one will ever want a woman who has already been used”. The girl in question had been sexually assaulted. True, the nun had no way of knowing, but with that attitude, can you even blame her for not trusting adults enough to report it?
I still get mad every time I remember it, and it’s been twenty years.
In high school, we girls got a lecture from the pastor’s wife about bra straps and tank tops. She said letting our bra straps be visible would cause the teen boys to stumble. (Never mind that they would all take off their shirts to play ultimate frisbee in the church yard.)
In my college years, I was a camp counselor at a Christian camp. The father of one of the other counselors gave a sermon one Sunday before a new camp began. He likened unmarried women to frosted donuts, and said that *any* sexual activity outside of marriage was leaving you a donut with the icing licked off, and who wants to offer that to a future husband? (Never mind that so many of us, myself included, were victims of sexual abuse.)
My parents wonder why I’ve ceased going to church/being an active Christian these last 15+ years. This is why.
damn, those words land hard
Yeah, forgive me father for I have sinned sounds a lot like sorry, daddy, I’ve been bad
One also diddles the kids and it’s not the people in beautiful makeup and outfits spreading radical feminism and positivity.
Why else do you think they want to shut queerness down? They don’t want people to be happy and understand that happiness happens outside of the status quo and always will. We’ve been a nation of serfs and slaves for a long time.
Honestly we shouldnt be asking religious bigots anything
April Ajoy is a great voice in the deconstructing space. I recommend the podcast she hosts with Tim Whittaker (fwiw they’re progressive Christians focusing on repairing Christianity, but they’re fully affirming and welcoming of everybody)
It’s a question a question of choice for sure. From my experience, Children get “born” into the church. They follow what their parents follow, but don’t nearly have the liberty to question church doctrine. I don’t care if an adult decides to be religious and conform to that lifestyle, but children never get that option.Â
I’ve never met a drag queen that was forced into drag. Whether it was something they did early or later in life, it was always something they chose.Â
I deeply resent the fact that, after escaping mormonism as the first act of my adult life, christian extremism has now established itself as an authoritarian structure to come back at me.
I found myself in a combination of witchcraft and the goth subculture. The best people I’ve ever known were part of one or both.
The worst people I’ve ever met were the mormons that antagonized me after I left the church. And I’m speaking from the perspective of a man. The stories I’ve heard from women are so much worse.
So I’m here to end the patriarchy, one hex at a time.
Religions are institutions of abuse that reduce people down to being animals and meat and biological functions instead of complex, beautiful and wonderful people, personalities and souls.
The attitudes, suffering and and mentalities they have perpetuated for centuries are unforgivable.
She wrote a book called Star Spangled Jesus. It’s pretty good.
Growing up, the concept of virginity wasn’t really taught to me as something that was socially constructed. Instead, I was taught how I had to protect my virginity from lascivious men. When I hit my teen years I was taught this plus how my virginity was a can of Coke. Or a stick of gum. Or a piece of chocolate. Even a freaking table.
The breaking point was hearing someone in my 20s tell me that I was going to hell because I was molested. It was not something that I asked for and yet it was still my fault.
I have struggled to deconstruct that bullshit ever since.