Why does the universe always do such painful things

Yeah, one of my closest friends was the one that encouraged me the most to pursuit her, and then one day in a discord call with 2 of us he said “man, i gotta tell you something”, and i asked him if it was about him and my crush dating, and he was really confused on how i figured it out, but it was really obvious

Very shitty from both of them as they were the 2 closest friends i had, shitty from her for leading me on for years (long story), and from him to keep on encouraging me to pursuit her even though they were dating