Worse than nothing gift
Wednesday, 12 Mar 2025
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When it’s her birthday you can re-gift it.
Use it to toast veggies, in front of her.
As someone who has been working consistently on losing weight and growing muscles for the past 8 months, people do become self-conscious because they’re not satisfied with themselves. It must hurt that this is coming from your partner. Please keep consistent, tell her how this makes you feel and if she’s feeling self-conscious, invite her to join you.
I didn’t even read the story at first. I thought the infuriating part was the fact that a s’mores machine exists when all you need is fire and a stick.
Seriously though, this whole thing is pretty upsetting. Stay strong on your journey. Please address how you’re feeling with your wife, because this feels like sabotage and it isn’t right.
She’s subconsciously trying to sabotage your weight loss because she’s feeling insecure. Unfortunately, it’s very common when one person in a relationship makes big lifestyle changes and the other doesn’t. In a perfect world, you’d make these changes together, but she needs to decide to do that on her own and it doesn’t sound like she’s there yet. Consider couples therapy.
I had a cancer scare last year. Horrible GI issues and lost about 30 pounds without trying in less than two months. A bad sign. In the midst of this my wife was like “I wish I could lose 30 pounds”. She was jealous of the weight loss of a possibly dying man.
She’s becoming self conscious because you’re a little lighter than her now? I wonder if there were some way she could fix that?
Return it. And talk to her.
this isnt mildlyinfuriating bro this is a major issue in your relationship bro
Gift her an apple peeler.
It’s quite gruesome that your own partner doesn’t want you to be healthy and thriving. I’m sorry. Keep going and keep doing your thing.
It’s something from the “aisle of shame” at Aldi. (Ambiano is one of Aldi’s many house brands.) It cost $20 originally. Keep it in a closet to give as a white elephant gift the next time the opportunity comes up, or donate it to a thrift store like Goodwill or Salvation Army.
This is more than mildly infuriating. This is seriously dark.
Seems like it’s time to have an open and honest convo about the weight loss with the wife!
I’d start with therapy. Couples and individual, at least for her. She seems to have some internal emotional 💩 that she hasn’t gotten over. Or she doesn’t actually love you. Most likely the first. Either way it needs attention from you both. Or both of you will be in for a long run of emotional turmoil that may lead to divorce and worse a distaste for each other. If the love is still there therapy can definitely help. Just the art of getting an unbiased nonjudgmental opinion on personal matters is helpful. And fwiw helpful can mean separating. Sometimes what’s best is leaving before you hate each other. See if you both can put in the effort to the underlying issues and if you can and it still works great. If you can and it doesn’t…still great. If one or both of you won’t or don’t then it’s time to say your peace and move on. Good luck and I wish you the best.
Btw – Happy birthday and congratulations on the weight loss. Don’t let this bump in the road stop your journey. Anything worth having is worth working for but nothing worth having comes easy. Hard work and dedication pay off. Keep at it and stay strong. You got this. 👏🏽
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A bit passive aggressive. I’d toss it, and her.
This feels like it was designed to be a white elephant gift.
That’s gross. I got my husband a quite nice set of computer speakers with a subwoofer for his birthday, because I thought it would make him happy. It did.
That’s why you get presents, to make someone happy. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. You deserve something thoughtful.
Damn, imagine feeling self conscious when your partner is making progress for their *own health*. Couldn’t be me. Sorry OP, this really sucks.
You can pay for therapy when it’s her birthday.
You two need to sit down and talk honestly
These little dogs and backhanded comments are a one-wsy track to a divorce
Maybe the two of you can start to work together on the meal prep more .. Or you can have fun hiking outings
Just talk this out and get to a place you are both comfortable before it’s too late
I can’t believe a smore maker is a thing
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My dad and stepmom have been smokers for 30+ years. Somehow my dad have quit smoking multiple times for months, and sometimes years. Whoever, every time he tried quitting, she’d always insist on him smoking with her. “Come smoke with me” and shit like that. Never made sense to me how you see tour husband trying to quit a horrible habit, and instead of being supportive she tried to sabotage him. This reminded me of that, your wife is probably doing it subconsciously and i totally get it. But she should be proud of you, not trying to hold you down.
Does your wife even like you?
Re-normalize talking to your partner rather than spitefully exposing your private lives on the internet. Or, if you just hate her, keep doing as you’re doing.
It’s great you’re deciding to better yourself by losing weight.
If she feels self conscious (sounds messed up but) that is a her issue.
If you bettering yourself makes her feel worse, then she needs to look at herself and decide if maybe it’s time for a new diet, excercise, or even skin regimens.
Don’t let the pettiness or blatant oblivious notions hold you back from losing weight.
If she wants to better her health and body as well she can just make the effort or hit the road.
Wow that sounds crazy to me, why can’t she just join you on your journey? That’s what I would do make it a couple journey and enjoy working out and eat healthy. Celebrate the small achievements together that sounds so fun to me!
That’s so petty. My ex wife would make those snide remarks when I got thinner than her. It’s just pathetic.
Like gee, thanks for the support.
This is something my toxic brother or passive aggressive “friend” would have done to try and sabotage my health goals as I “outgrew” them, becoming healthier and more active.
I think it’s a sign of something bigger than just s’mores and a serious talk, or therapy, is in order.
Bro for valentines day my wife got me alphabetical markers for my vinyl collection. I only have like 30 records. I have no idea what to do with these
Return it. Get something you like with the money /credit. Buy something like a shirt that fits well now that you lost weight.
Return it.
Just take that shit right to goodwill
Sorry to say chief, but a relationship where your partner tries to sabotage your self improvement journey because it makes her uncomfortable and she can’t be fucked to go on one herself doesn’t sound all that healthy.
Take the high road. Invite all your friends and throw your first ever s’mores party! Consider this my RSVP!